The Museum of Fat Love - The Museum of Fat Love (latest images) The world's premier collection of not-so-rare creatures. en-US Fri, 23 Aug 2019 11:33:51 -0700 Fri, 23 Aug 2019 11:33:51 -0700 ZenPhoto RSS Generator Tiffany and Will (On Exhibit) Tiffany and Will

Will and I met on the Internet, purely by accident. I thought he was pretty cool and vice versa, so within a week he was at my doorstep. An afternoon together turned into an all-day affair - lunch at a cozy Italian place, him actually suffering through The Devil Wears Prada, and eventually kissing.


I went back to college, he attended Formal with me, and several frenzied, love-filled months later, a proposal. Which I accepted, naturally. ( for reference)


I feel like weight was never really an issue with us. At all. We just met, started hanging out, and fell in love. Neither of us had a second thought about our weights in the context of love - we loved the person, no matter what shape the person in question happened to fill. It was natural.


Five months ago, we got married. I don't really think I'll ever look back. I had a lot of dysfunctional relationships in my past, but the way things are now, nothing's ever felt so right. I have someone that can look past my imperfections, my clumsiness and my awkward way with words. Someone who is supportive of anything I do. I wouldn't give that up for the world on a silver platter. Most importantly, I haven't had to give up any part of myself - weight, feminism, general goofiness - it's all there, and it's all loved, because it's all me.

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On Exhibit Mon, 07 Jul 2008 06:32:06 -0700
Ann and Jesse (On Exhibit) Ann and Jesse

I'm Ann. Jesse has been my significant other for 12.5 years; we've been sharing an apartment since 2000. We met in college, when he was a sophomore and I was a freshman. We were each dating other people at the time, but within a year we'd ended our respective relationships. After a lot of friendly conversation that I guess one could call "flirting" and an exchange of mix tapes and M&Ms, I confessed my crush via email. I wasn't really surprised when he returned the sentiment.


We've both gained weight over the years -- 80 pounds on my part -- but it hasn't mattered. We're both happy techie introverts who just really like hanging out with each other, and our relationship gets better every year. He's hilarious and smart and kind, and I'm pretty sure he likes me, too.

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On Exhibit Wed, 27 Jan 2010 16:15:48 -0800
Brandi and Jonny (On Exhibit) Brandi and Jonny

Jonny and I met at CTOPS (our university’s freshman orientation program).  I like to think that it was fate and my mother’s chronic tardiness that brought our stars into alignment—I was very late to the first session in our program and just randomly joined a group that happened to contain the fabulous Mr. Jonathan. He said something snarky to me in group time, but we continued the conversation on the campus tour and spent the rest of the weekend together, ditching class, getting lost on campus, and watching movies, behavior that continued through all four years of college. Since Jonny identified as gay when we first met, I thought I had finally found the Rupert Everett to my Julia Roberts, the chunky Will to my fat Grace, but instead our friendship morphed into something completely unexpected, something beyond labels.  It’s been over ten years since we met and I hardly remember a time when I didn’t have Jonny to come home to.  We’re just a couple of big fat queers who love each other. He’s my best friend and my partner and I’m so lucky to have found him.

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On Exhibit Wed, 27 Jan 2010 16:14:38 -0800
Kiki and Erik (On Exhibit) Kiki and Erik

Erik and I met almost three years ago on-line.  He was just coming out of a divorce and I had been off the dating train for around 5 years.  Neither one of us were thinking that our friendship was going to lead to a romantic relationship.  But here we are engaged to be married before the end of the year and happy as can be.  He tells me everyday how beautiful I am and even though I sometimes don't feel like it, I know how he sees me and that lifts me up.

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On Exhibit Wed, 27 Jan 2010 16:12:11 -0800
Hillary and Brian (On Exhibit) Hillary and Brian

We met in 1998, when we were both in what was later to be deemed the World's Worst Statistics Class. We were both sophomores at our conservative university, and both beginning to realize we weren't cut from the same cloth as many at that school. We had loads in common, including interests in anime & video games, unusual music, a healthy dose of skepticism, and a tendency toward irreverence in EVERYTHING. We were both plump, and we each found the other ridiculously attractive. He tried to catch my eye. However, I was reeling from a bad breakup & didn't see that he was hitting on me. 


In early 1999, he was dating another girl who was great, but just not suited for him. They fought a lot, and I became Advice Girl--that female friend a guy has when he needs tips on how to make another girl happy. To my dismay, I developed a raging crush on him. To his dismay, he developed one on me, but felt it would be wrong to act on it. Eventually it was one of my friends who spurred him into action: "Think of both of them," she told him. "Now, who do you LIKE more?" He blinked, realized what was wrong with this picture, and we've been together ever since. 


I went through a period of Weight Watchers, trying to get back to a size 12 (what I wore when we got married) from a 16. It didn't work, and I quit in despair. His response was "Thank GOD. You were miserable." That reaction, unbeknownst to either of us at the time, would later push me into the body acceptance movement.


St. Patrick's Day 2010 will be our 10th wedding anniversary. We have a three-year-old son. We've sent each other back to school for more degrees, entirely unrelated to our first ones. We have been together through the most stressful times in our lives. 


This picture shows us on our 7th wedding anniversary at the Memphis Botanical Gardens. 

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On Exhibit Sat, 17 Mar 2007 12:06:54 -0700
Michele and Allan (On Exhibit) Michele and Allan

Attached is a photo of myself and my partner, Allan, taken in October 2008 on our annual fall trip to the Berkshires.  We will be together five years this November.  We live together in Queens, NY.  We are very active and take full advantage of everything the city has to offer, including the parks, zoos, gardens, and beaches, but also all of the amazing ethnic food.  I asked Allan what he thought I should tell you about us, and he said, "We're unbearably cute."  I hope you will consider adding our photo to your museum.

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On Exhibit Mon, 13 Oct 2008 03:09:45 -0700
Jordan and Cara (On Exhibit) Jordan and Cara

So here is our story:


I - Jordan Berg Powers (then Jordan Berg) started a new job at a nonprofit that focuses on changing the media system.  I was new to the job and new to Massachusetts.  It was my second week on the job. Cara Lisa Powers (now Cara Lisa Berg Powers) was one of the organizers of the event and led my first session.  I was instantly drawn to her ideas and her stunning beauty.  She was busy and didn't notice me.  A few months later I was tabling for my job at the New York City Grassroots Media Conference.  When I saw her come by (she was there for her work) I was instantly excited. We started talking but mid-sentence she was distracted by someone else she knew and walked away (I know now its her life ADD). 


It wasn't until the 3rd state and 3rd meeting that I stuck. This time she came to a conference I helped organize in Minneapolis.  As she was more a captive audience we started talking at the event.  It continued over email and then in person.  We have been talking ever since. 


We got married one year after our first date this June.  We are both confident successful young professionals.  We chose each other because of the quality of persons and how attractive we found one another.  No desperation was needed it was about connecting on all levels in profound and clearly beautiful way.

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On Exhibit Wed, 27 Jan 2010 15:58:14 -0800
Arturo and Jamie (On Exhibit) Arturo and Jamie

Arturo y Jamie - From both of us.

We met in the Aquarians community on Livejournal in the fall of 2004.  He says I was stalking him (Seriously she was stalking me I didn’t feel safe at first but she had cookies and I can’t resist cookies)... I say I was just intrigued because I'd noticed his posts and comments several months before I ever said anything to him.  (See? It was definitely stalking. I knew it.  He posted lyrics to a song that sounded interesting, so I left him a comment.  About 10 minutes later he messaged me and we started talking.  Our first conversation stretched throughout the day and ended 12 hours later.  This was on November 8th.  By the end of the first week we were talking on the phone and throwing around the idea of meeting. (I don’t think we waited that long to be honest.)

 We decided to meet and spend New Years of 2005 together.  (Yeah I was really eager to meet her, I even went as far as to get us a hotel room in St. Louis and had a very romantic dinner planned.  It was perfect… What could possibly go wrong, you ask.  We both ate something that seriously didn’t agree with us.  We went down and we went down hard.) He took a train up to see me; something he likes to call a 27 hour ride from Hell.  I picked him up at the St. Louis Amtrak station and we drove the two and a half hours back to my hometown.  After a brief stop for lunch at a truck stop in the middle of nowhere Illinois (remember that part in Deliverance…. Yeah that’s about how I felt there when we walked into the truck stop), I thought he was ready to bolt back to civilization, but he stuck around.  (I mean even if I wanted to, civilization was like 2.5 hours away at least, and let’s face it I’m fat and out of shape!  Well… round is a shape!  A great shape!  Anyway do you think there was a taxi around???   Hell no!!  All I would have had would have been some crazed hillbilly going “you shore gotta purty mouth heh, heh, heh….”).  He exaggerates…I don’t live in that bad of an area, but I am somewhat in the middle of nowhere.  Anyway we both got sick during that time together.  He says it was food poisoning, I say it was the flu he brought me as a present.  Either way, I think that sealed the deal (Seriously after you see someone at their worst it’s hard to say no to them).  I think that if two people can stand each other while being sick and at their worst; they can survive anything together or apart.  (Now to be fair, she had her share of surprise.  On our next visit, she came down to Texas.  I decided to take her for good Tex-Mex and Margaritas. She was in absolute heaven.   Granted, she couldn’t feel her nose or teeth from the margaritas… but she was in heaven…until I said ‘great I’m glad you liked it let’s go meet my mother!  It was the 1st time she gave me The Look in person.  It was love I tell ya.) 

 We've been together ever since, except for a nine month break for stupidity (Yes it was my turn to father a child for Michael Jackson and she wanted try her hand out at training kittens to be personal body guards, and I believe she also acted as an Anthony Bourdainiac when he strolled through Chicago)  I can't speak for him, but the moment I saw him on December 28th 2004, I knew I was going to marry him (That explains why she had a minister with her – true story there was a minister standing right next to her at the train station)  Did not.  If there was a priest standing next to me, he was there of his own volition.  The first time I laid eyes on Arturo, he felt like home.  Even though we were apart for a while, I knew that if I had faith and believed, things would work out with us.  And they did.  Not many people can tolerate the traits of Aquarians (please if you have an Aquarian in your life you owe it to your Aquarian to get my new Book The Care and Feeding of your Aquarianand something in the cosmos keeps saying that we belong together.  Silly?  Probably.  Dorky?  Most definitely.  But true. 

 We are in a long distance relationship right now, until he finishes school (It’s a rare thing to find a woman who will wait for you through your undergrad, a 2 years masters, and now a 3 year PhD program – how I haven’t driven her away can only be explained as a miracle from God.)  It really is love, you know.  Or I’m a glutton for punishment…  I wouldn’t wait this long for anybody else.  It's not easy, but it's completely worth it.  We have survived sickness, two weeks in Mexico City with his family during Christmas and New Years of 2006, breaking up, getting back together, family issues, health issues, school issues, time and distance issues...  yeah, if we can do all of this long distance, we'll be fine together full time. (This will be easier as soon as she learns to share the covers in bed!)  I share the covers.  He just GIVES them to me, I swear.  Besides, he has the whole closing the cabinet doors thing to work on, so I think we’re even.

 He loves me for me, flaws and all (of which I have many – she has no more flaws then any other woman hell if we are talking statistically she is above and beyond most).  I love his sense of humor and randomness.  He (knows) thinks I'm beautiful and sexy and I know he is the most handsome man I have ever set eyes on.]]>Date: Wed 27 Jan 2010 03:50:39 PM PST]]>
On Exhibit Wed, 27 Jan 2010 15:50:39 -0800
bri (On Exhibit) bri

I met my husband in late 2003 and we were handfasted and legally married less than a year later. He is my rock. He loves me for who I am and I wouldn't want him any other way than he is. 

He has taken on my (now) 12 year old son as his own and we also have a fiesty 3 year old daughter. Together we have been able to support each other through difficult times and encourage each other to achieve our individual dreams. He is truly my partner. 

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On Exhibit Wed, 27 Jan 2010 15:49:08 -0800
Julia and Lindsay (On Exhibit) Julia and Lindsay

It was definitely not love at first sight! We went to high school together and took no notice of each other until our 2nd last year of high school. I developed a massive crush on him, the sight of him would give me butterflies and make me blush. I asked him out and almost 3 years later he proposed to me on Christmas Eve 2007 with a ring he had designed especially for me. We got married (December 2008) at age 21.  He always tells me he loves me for who I am and telling me I am beautiful and sexy. 

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On Exhibit Wed, 27 Jan 2010 15:47:25 -0800